Soul Vibes: LoA Demystified
Below I am offering a synopsis of a recent presentation
and coaching forum for those who may not have been able
to attend. This has been a vision of mine for some
time, and it was an honor and a joy to see come to
fruition. The fact that I was offering the presentation
itself is evidence of its content! Enjoy.
This
serves as a great introduction to the Law of
Attraction, and how it informs SHiNE Coaching from a
“soulular perspective.”
Soul
Vibes: Vibrational Self-Mastery & The Law of
Attraction
New
Renaissance Bookshop, Portland, OR
Thursday, August 13, 2009
by Candice Schutter
This coaching forum focused specifically on a teaching
that has gotten a lot of mainstream attention in the
past couple of years – the Law of Attraction. It is my
hope that you will leave here tonight with a greater
understanding – not only of the Law of Attraction – but
of HOW it relates to a deeper aspect of who you really
are. We will explore the LoA from a soulular
perspective in order to make it a meaningful and
practical part of your spiritual practice. This
gathering is about self-directing your energy. It is
about consciously aligning with who you really are in
each and every moment.
I was first exposed to LoA in 2000, through a daily
martial arts (qigong) discipline. It was then that I
was first introduced to the idea that my thoughts were
powerful causal factors in my everyday life. I was
hooked on learning more! Since then, I have been an
avid student of metaphysics. In 2003, I was exposed to
new thought ministries, and I studied how modern
pioneers like Ernest Holmes created an philosophy and
spiritual way of life that put this awareness to work
through affirmative prayer. On my metaphysical journey,
I have cycled through seasons of passionate inquiry, as
well as times of intense skepticism and uncertainty. My
recent studies – namely of the leading edge work
of
Esther and Jerry Hicks
– have led me to understand LoA in a larger sense. Much
of what I will be sharing with you is inspired directly
by their work – along with my own experience and the
clients that I see applying these principles.
It is important to remember that the recent buzz around
the Law of Attraction in mainstream circles is only
hinting at a deeper pulse. We live in a marketplace. As
a result, media created to appeal to the mainstream is
often a watered-down version of the truth. I am
interested in expanding your definition of these unseen
forces, placing them into a spiritual framework that
can lead to a joyful and uplifting existence. Remember
to smile often and have fun!
What
is the Law of Attraction?
The Law of Attraction is based on a number of
progressing premises:
(inspired
by the teachings of
Abraham-Hicks,
among others)
1.
Everything is Made Up of Energy
The
universe is made up of energy – both visible and not
visible. Everything seen and unseen is energy. By
definition, energy is in a constant state of perpetual
motion - thus, it is also known as vibration. The
slower the energy is moving the more dense it is. The
more dense, the slower it is to change. For example:
thought is a faster moving energy than matter. From
this perspective, materialization is the slowing of a
continual vibration into form. Therefore, it is said
that there is a vibrational reality that exists,
proceeding all that we see in physical form. The
vibrational reality is real – it is just unseen until a
continuous holding of that resonance results in matter
(or evidence in physical form).
2.
Energy is Life & Life is Perpetual and
Expansive
Everything
in the universe is in a perpetual state of expansion
and growth. All living things move towards greater
thriving, and change form in order to do so. This
expansion is constant and all living things are an
aspect of this expansion. Since everything is energy,
it can be said that everything is one energy - one
pulsing, expansive force of life. Put in a spiritual
framework, it is Source expressing and evolving itself
through all form that it takes. It is all a part of the
overall expansion of life - even you. There is no
escaping expansion, it is an inevitable aspect of life
itself.
3. Expansion Happens Through Polarity &
Contrast
Expansion
happens through the law of polarity. The physical realm
is driven by contrast. And through contrast, all desire
is born. In other words, in order to become more, all
living things experience contrast – it is in the
not-wanting of things that a new experience is born –
when we have an experience of “no not that” we
co-create a vibrational version that is better – it
happens immediately, as the way of the universe it one
of expansion and continual creation.
The
Law of Attraction (mainstream, material
perspective):
We
have been taught, plain and simply:
like attracts like.
The Law of Attraction says what you put your attention
on will continue to evidence itself in your life.
Whatever you focus on will expand. Therefore, the more
that you focus on “what-is”, the more of the same you
will get. So we are taught,
focus your attention on what you want
instead.
The
Law of Attraction (soulular
perspective):
Put
in a larger context, we can take the Law of Attraction
much further. (Or rather, it takes US further). The Law
of Attraction is working continually. We cannot apply
it any more than we can apply the law of gravity.
However, we can certainly understand it better! From a
greater context, the soulalar perspective says this:
Your desires are born of the polarity of life. When you
desire something (as a result of contrast), you become
a vibrational match to something greater. And
regardless of the form that it might seem to take, EACH
and EVERY desire that is birthed in you is a desire for
soul connection. No matter what desires that contrast
has birthed in you,
there is only ever one desire
at the root of it all – to become more of who you
really are. Thus,
when you experience contrast, you create a new version
of YOU
that simply must be experienced as a part of the
greater expansion of life itself. As soon as it has
been conjured, your soul begins to stir. Suddenly that
potential is ripe and ready in you, and
nothing less will do.
How
can I “use” the Law of Attraction?
It is a bit of a misnomer, for the Law of Attraction is
always at work in your life. In fact, IT is using YOU
in the greater expansiveness of life. What you can do,
however, is understand how it is working. You have all
the guidance you need, built right in!
YOUR
EMOTIONS – YOUR ENERGETIC GPS SYSTEM
You
are hard-wired for expansion. You can very easily learn
how to use the feedback of your emotions to understand
where your vibration is at any given moment. If we use
our earlier definition of energy, we are reminded that
as an energy is contemplated over time, it becomes more
and more dense. Until eventually, it will evidence
itself in our physical reality.
Thought >>>> E M O T I O N >>>>
Form
Therefore, emotion is the intermediary between thought
and form. It gives us immediate and undiluted feedback
about how we are vibrating.
The soulular LoA invites us to take this even further.
Remember, upon desiring something it has become a
vibrational reality for you. Not only that, YOU have
become a match for that (on a soulular level) and
nothing less will do. Thus, how you feel becomes an
absolute indicator of how close or how far away you are
from that NEW YOU that has become. When you feel “good”
you are right on track, in vibrational alignment. When
you feel “bad” you are holding yourself apart from your
potential in some way.
In summary, the LoA (material perspective) says...
think/feel/act in accordance with what you want. There
is wisdom there. Sure. Yet people get what they want
all the time, and then later wonder why it didn’t yield
happiness.
I invite you to evolve in your understanding of this
force of life. The LoA (soulular perspective) says...
think/feel/act your way into vibrational alignment with
who you have BECOME. Allow the perpetual expansion of
self to guide you towards true happiness. You can still
enjoy the ever-changing means through which ultimate
happiness comes. Yet, you experience the joy of
authenticity and soul alignment when you understand
that the physical pleasures of life - enjoy them! - are
wonderful containers through which expansion can occur.
Key Understandings in order to work WITH the
LoA:
You
Attract – The Universe Creates
It’s
called the Law of Attraction for good reason.
Let yourself off the hook when in comes to “creation.”
You attract a possibility through your desire and
subsequent ability to align yourself with it. Reality
is subjective, and you experience what you are
available for. Many different possibilities already
exist. It is really up to YOU which of these realities
you align with.
You Live In An Interdependent Universe
You
are not the only show in town.
Your thoughts are not the only ones out there, and your
energy effects more than just you. The possibility of
something is sometimes collectively determined... the
probability (in your reality) is personally determined
by your match to it. Likewise, trust in the unfolding.
Your good is a part of the greater good. The perfect
outcome is determined by a vantage point that far
exceeds your own, benefiting all involved in the
perfect way and timing.
Feeling
Matters More Than Thought
You
can affirm until you are blue in the face, but feeling
is seeing.
Therefore, it is MUCH more efficient to monitor your
emotions over thoughts. Use how you feel to determine
your vibrational alignment to your desires... then use
thought to re-direct towards better feeling sensations
(alignment). Here is a great tool for changing your
primary vibration on any given topic.
Click Here
to learn about the Focus Wheel Process.
Energy
Matters More Than Content
The
energy of alignment is the only thing that matters, It
matters far more than the content of your desire.
Because the world is a marketplace, we are fed story
after story of people manifesting exactly what they
wanted. And you may just do that! However, the only
manifestation that is ever occurring is alignment with
true power (the soul) and how it can be best expressed
in any given moment. When you get too caught up in the
content, you MISS the point (and the power is lost).
You distract yourself from obvious goodness.
Action
is Essential on the Big Stuff
Action
can help to shift a vibrational pattern.
We have learned that action without alignment can be
futile. Yet on the big stuff, alignment without action
is a tall order! Action can be the missing ingredient
to truly place you in vibrational proximity to your
desires. Thus, action is not creating the perfect
outcome... it is placing you within the vibrational
vicinity of it. Likewise, if you don’t tend to your
vibration, action can be the one thing that is making
you a mismatch to the vibration that is at the root of
your desire. Therefore, action when in alignment is the
most powerful combination there is!
There
are No Absolutes in an Expansive Perspective
What
you don’t know can’t hurt you unless you pretend to
know it all.
This perspective is not meant to be all-encompassing.
We are continually growing in our understanding of this
force in our lives. Be willing to test it out and be
willing to expand and grow in your perspective. Take
what works for you, and leave the rest behind.
At the core of this message is this: follow your
soulular compass to the life that expresses the
continual you that is unfolding!
Do
you want the nutshell version?
Your dreams are drawn to you, if you allow them to flow
you in their direction. Embrace the moments of
discomfort for the clarity they bring, and then release
them by focusing on what they are birthing in you. Feel
good, relax, accept, and enjoy the expansion of life.
We all benefit from your willingness to smile.
Desire: Friend or Foe?

August
2009

It
is never the idol that you want,
but what you think it offers you.
A
Course in Miracles
Desire. Friend or
Foe?
Let's face it: desire has gotten a bad rap for
centuries. With roots in both eastern and western
religious traditions, renunciation of desire has
penetrated the collective psyche as a noble aim in an
ever-expanding material world. We are taught - through
an onslaught of psychological, sociological, and
spiritual influences - that desire is selfish and
fleeting...and that the ego (desire's vehicle) must be
defeated in order to experience true happiness. Yet
despite our best intentions, desire remains a human
epidemic we have yet to overcome as a species. Some
might wonder, if we are truly evolving, why are we
still yearning?
Humans are a species mesmerized by dichotomies. We
continually do the dance of extremes in order to propel
ourselves forth. Desire is a force hard to deny; thus,
when renunciation of the material world wages a war
within, we turn to consumption. After feeding impulse
after impulse, we find we are still left empty. We
pretend our hunger means nothing...we pretend it means
everything...and now we are ready to stop pretending.
Every human longing points to a potential within. Our
minds are magicians, continually whipping up potions
that we think promise us the end we are seeking. We
spend time and resources casting spell after spell in
hopes to manifest the IT that will deliver us the
sensation we so long for. Time and time again, the
end-result is short-lived. Thus, we blame desire itself
for leading us astray.
Yet, what if we are simply missing the point? What if
desire is not the problem. Perhaps it is our approach
to it that needs to be re-evaluated. I have come to
understand that each and every desire (without
exception) point us in the direction of a
universally-desired sensation. Thus, at the heart of
our desire is alignment with a potential that is
seeking to be born through our life experience.
What You Really Want is
YOU
The object of your desire is not the problem; the fact
that you want IT is not the source of your mood swings.
It is in the misunderstanding of these impulses that
you find cause to suffer. Put simply, desire is an
indicator that something more is calling to you. Life's
struggles aren't a result of the cycle of incessant
wanting. Suffering may be due to attachments to the
many forms that your physical creation has taken, or
may take in the future. Or, perhaps more commonly in
our western culture,
suffering is ignoring oneself and never fulfilling the
potential buried beneath surface
longing.
What you really want is to E X P A N D - to express
more of your evolving essence. The objects of your
desire are simply things that you believe will deliver
the goods - the goodness that it your birthright.
Desire is the eager whimper of a more expansive YOU
that is currently hidden from view. To deny it is to
deny your innate tendency for growth and expansion.
Paradoxically, it is the denial of our deepest desires
that causes the ego run amok. Anyone who has ever
stayed the course of a circumstance (or way of being)
long-outgrown knows the blessed tantrums of the ego.
Interestingly, when we finally let go and yield to what
would feel better - in thought, word, or action - the
tempest fades. Alas, could the ego be an ally on this
journey?! Oh yes, indeed!! An
ego-soul alliance is pulsing at the core of
this message.
Metaphorically speaking, your soul is in a state of
perpetual rebirth. (I mean, in this life, you are meant
to evolve continually). Your ego and the world of form
offer vessels of gestation through which you are meant
to grow in and out of. And, it is the contractions of
desire that deliver you forth. They ensure your
expansion by pushing you towards greater degrees of
love, joy, freedom, and well-being.
Expansion through
Form
Some spiritual teachers have told us to seek the
medicine from within. They say that if we sit still
long enough...if we dive deep enough...and if we resist
the dream of the physical world around us, we will be
rewarded with limitless joy. Yet, is the point of this
physical dimension simply to deny it? Or, can we have
both? - the boundless joy of expansion and the
pleasures of human existence? Rather than enlightenment
in spite of the physical world, could this planet of
ours become the container through which we express our
collective enlightenment?
Every aspect of the living world is in a state of
perpetual expansion. Growth and evolution of form is
the way of the physical domain. At the root of this
propulsion forth is - you guessed it - desire. The
longing for something better. Desire is the catalyst
for change. Change is a means for personal expansion.
And personal expansion is the key ingredient in
collective evolution. Accept and embrace your desires
as reflections of latent potential within all of
us.
Join the Dialogue
Those of you in the Portland area, join me this
Thursday, August 13th at New Renaissance
Bookshop. I am honored to be
leading a coaching forum that will shed a new light on
desire, the ego, and the metaphysics of creation. We
will explore and evolve the Law of Attraction through
the lens of the soul. Questions, comments, and
contributions are welcome. Hope to see you
there!
Click here to sign up.
Note: CLICK
HERE for a follow-up post on the Soul Vibes
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Rose-Colored Glasses

March 2009

There
is no excuse not to feel good
knowing what you know.
Abraham-Hicks, 2-8-09
You may have noticed that
the February issue of theMessenger never made it out
into cyberspace. I was on a personal retreat - a
Abraham-Hicks Well-Being Adventure Cruise to the
Mexican Riviera with a dear friend and nearly 600
like-minded souls. It was truly a pivotal and inspiring
journey for me. I feel certain that I was forever
changed by the inspired teachings I was exposed to, the
individuals whom I met, and the hours spent steeping in
hot tubs and transformative discussions.
Something was revived in me...something that I have
known since my first dawn in this world...something
that shapes everything that I choose as I walk through
the world.
Life was meant to feel good.
I so enjoyed being on the receiving end of a message
that clarifies with such simplicity the essence of that
which I share in every SHiNE offering. My commitment to
our inherent right to feel good is the source behind
each and every SHiNE creation. When we are in alignment
with who it is we are becoming, we radiate contagious
enthusiasm and creative inspiration. When we allow the
natural expression of our truth and magnificence to
shine, we feel fabulous and connected to all of life.
However, when we dilute the fullness of our gifts or
disallow our most honest self from evolving forth, we
suffer from disharmony or dis-ease. My life has been -
and continues to be - a navigation of this most basic
principle of life. The path of my bliss dares me to
step into alignment with more of my potential with each
passing moment.
So what are common stumbling blocks for so many of us?
Why don't we feel good more of the time?
Learning to Trust Yourself
In some cases, we navigate our course based on the
opinions of those around us. We turn our attention away
from our internal guidance and we fixate on how we are
being received by our environment. Dis-empowerment is
self-inflicted as we stray from our path in order to
become what we perceive is expected of us or become
stuck in being who we once were. This tendency often
shows up subtly through our self-talk; we use words and
phrases like: should
and
have
to.
The honesty of what is real for us is denied for the
sake of what we think is right, rather that what we
know is right for us in the moment.
Finding the joy that is in our very nature hinges on
our ability to differentiate our desires from the
desires of those around us. What turns you on is
personal and unique to you. Let us all be reminded that
the need to please others - and/or to fit into a way of
being that is contrary to the essence of who we are -
leads to suffering. It is a Loving Universe that guides
us in this way. Through energetic imbalances - negative
emotion and/or physical dis-ease - we are being guided
to return to ourselves once more. It is nature's way of
saying: Deny who it is you have
become and I will remind you to make a shift. Realign
with what brings you great joy and you will feel
relief. It is always reminding
us...in order to feel good,
you must be true to the essence of who you really are -
and who you are continually becoming.
I can't think
of a message more loving than that.
Relief As An Indicator
It is in the moments of disconnection from Who We
Really Are that we feel fear and discouragement. It is
only when we miss the point of such moments that we get
stuck in the rut of despair. These 'low moments' are
simply letting us know that we are not aligned with our
deepest desires. Our inner guidance is providing us
with feedback - in this case, negative emotion - that
let's us know we are out of alignment with direction in
which we are evolving. The more we feed this
self-created reality of disempowerment (with
self-defeating criticism or habituated actions) the
worse we feel.
However, if we turn away from the discomfort and
consciously seek a feel-good experience, we immediately
feel relief. And relief is feedback that lets us know
we are moving closer to Who We Really Are. Relief can
come from shifting your attention from a topic that
"brings you down" to a topic that is neutral and/or of
a higher frequency for you. At other times, it is a
matter of re-framing your experience so that you see
the gift - the opportunity to develop into more of who
you have become - through each and every choice you
make.
As we move into spring, set the intention to make
FEELING GOOD your practice. When you come face-to-face
with a perceived source of discomfort, either shift
your attention or shift your perspective. Allow
yourself the freedom to choose how you want to feel in
relationship to the world around you. Whatever you do,
find a way to feel good. And yes...you can. You came
into the world knowing how to do this. You are
hard-wired to follow your emotions (internal
vibrations) as indicators...you get better and better
at it with time and practice. Life is supposed to be a
process of continual improvement as you become a master
of choosing more consciously over time.
Since returning from my travels, I have re-committed to
this practice. And I have been exuding more enthusiasm
and positivity than ever! So much so, in fact, that I
was recently accused of seeing the world through
rose-colored glasses. To this I responded, "Thank you!
And if you'd like, I'd be happy to fashion you a pair!"

Seeing Pink Everywhere,
Candice
This
month's feature was greatly influenced by the teachings
of Abraham-Hicks. For more information, visit them
online at www.abraham-hicks.com.
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Transforming Fate Into Destiny

May 2008 - Book of The Month
Transforming Fate Into
Destiny: A New Dialogue With Your Soul
by Robert Ohotto
It's been awhile since I
picked up a book that so truly spoke my language. There
are so many gifted teachers out there, sharing powerful
work... I am often struck by the potency a teaching.
However, in this month's featured book, my appreciation
was taken to the next level. I feel as though much of
the knowledge that I have intuited on my own path is
expressed so clearly here.
Excerpt:
We must understand that the freedom we have in free will is to align with our inner design, but we don't have the liberty to be anything other than who we're meant to become. Said another way, each of us eventually awakens to the terrifying reality that there is precious little we can truly control in life - that is, our ego is the caboose on the train of our being, and the soul is the engine that's truly in charge of our lives. The ego must humbly learn that it can only control the quality of our journey, not the destination, which was planned before we came here...
We must always be mindful of when we're seeking and chasing outer approval for our value. For the degree to which we believe in our inherent worth determines how much we can change the world through our Destiny.
These are beautiful explanations of what I consider to be tenets of the SHiNE philosophy. I suggest this book for the great many powerful themes expressed:
- Examine the western world as a fate-phobic culture... where remarkable teachings regarding the nature of life are too often over-simplified to meet our need to control outcomes.
- Develop soul esteem and connecting to the core inscription guiding your walk in the world.
- Explore the ways in which "the ego has gotten a bad rap"... and consider a expansive and compassionate approach to the ego in which it becomes an ally to the soul, resulting in inner authority.
- Practice the art of soul prayer... and learn how the Law of Attraction fits in when our ego wants that which our soul is not aligned with.
- Transforming how you view death, your body, the psyche... and so much more.
Reading this book, I feel grateful that Ohotto was able to share so many of concepts that are overlooked in modern metaphysical circles. I applaud his courage to state the obvious, and to take us into new frontiers of understanding the undeniable.
Check it out
I Am That, I Am
I just finished watching
The Moses Code, a relatively new release by director
James Twyman. Take the recent hit, The Secret, and add
higher consciousness including a heavy emphasis on the
role of service and interdependence in spirituality.
Unlike the teachings of late that have paved the way,
this film is not promoting a metaphysical message
focused on empowering the self... instead it emphasizes
a holy message intent upon empowering the soul. The
movie centers around the words revealed to Moses at the
burning bush... I Am That I Am... and offers a
suggestion for an entirely new way of approaching this
message. I will not go into the particulars... as the
purpose of this posting is not to review the movie.
There is much to be said about the film... yet, I am
writing from a personal place tonight.
There is an undeniable truth that I have been
overlooking in my life. It helped reveal itself to me
tonight, and I have decoded a perception that is a
recent source of great struggle.

Pictured above is me just a
few months after I arrived in Portland, over four years
ago. As you can see, I looked very different then. I
had very short hair... and my body was tight and
brimming with muscles from the diligence of daily
pushing them to their edge. This was an important
season in my life. Beginning in the year 2000, the body
you see above carried me through many achievements and
much growth. My streamlined physique above reflected my
business ethic, my single-minded ambition, and my
passion at the time.
This was the true beginning of a destiny that I felt
called to embody. It stemmed from a reason for being
that resonated within me for as long as I can remember.
And in the years from the time of that photo to now, I
have witnessed the miraculous. I have watched myself
inch ever-more closely to my calling (and I know this,
because the voice gets louder). And the primary way
that I have done this to date has been to say
"yes"
to pathways
that have enabled me to connect to the voice within.
One choice at a time, I awakened to my soul's
yearning... saying yes to heartbreak as a journey to
self love.... yes to an insatiable spiritual inquiry...
yes to the emergence of the leader within in job after
job... yes to being unpopular to others in the pursuit
of my truth... yes to movement as a vehicle for
unleashing my brilliance... yes to hooping as a pathway
to understand what enlivens me in the presence of
others. Again and again,
yes has been leading me home.
Now, I find myself standing at the doorway of my
mission as a messenger in this time of great love
embodiment. And, suddenly, "no" has stepped in.
I have been experiencing a great paralysis. I am no
longer the same driven woman in that picture above... a
young soul who manifested opportunity after
opportunity... businesses, clients, and projects. The
one who dared to dream of a life where she could work
for herself. The one who worked endlessly, blasting
through to-do lists and pushing through with a warrior
mindset. I am the woman on the other side of the wall
she busted through. I find myself standing at the point
of entry, saying: "Ah yes, now... I know what I can and
must do." And... I do nothing! Much unlike this decade
of movement that propelled me into the now, anything
other than stillness feels false to this new me.
And so, it was today that I wondered aloud to a dear
friend, "What is it that stops
me from the actions towards this next creation of my
soul's deepest yearning?"

The pieces are coming
together now. You see, I have felt conflicted in my
heart. I have always been wired in such a way that I
cannot step forth on a path where my heart does not
fully align. I have experienced it admiration,
resentment, and utter confusion from others for this
inherent trait in me. Yet, I have come to accept it in
myself.
The degree to which my heart has been halting the
progression of my path as an aspiring author is
becoming more clear. I now understand that an old
paradigm has expired, and a new one has been forming. I
am unwilling to take even a step forward with a
worn-out energetic that feels out of integrity with who
I am destined to become.
My Destiny in this life is Service.
And the gifts that I am blessed with are not commodity
or product.
They are blessed pathways that require Grace and
Humility.
The old paradigm is that of the Entrepreneur. Much of
its energy hinges on the question of how to take skills
and talents and make them a marketable and sustainable
source of sustenance in my life. This mode of being is
not good or bad, as it certainly served its time in my
life. Nevertheless, it has been flipped on its head
over the past few months, and I see it now clear as
day. I don't know yet how
this will
change how and what I do... but
I do know that a rapid and irreversible revolution is
happening with me on a soulular
level.
While I am not rejecting the ways of business
development as we know them to operate, I am certain
that my creative energies will continue to allude me if
I continue to yoke them to dollars and cents. In this
new world where I see us all benefiting organically
from the way in which we are destined to serve this
world, a financial plan for a path of transformation
feels somehow forced. Certainly, I can set objectives!
Yet, I know that what
I must create I
must create for the sake of serving a greater good.
I must serve because service is needed.
I must give of myself because giving is the only thing
that matters.
Even to me it sounds a bit idealistic. How will I pay
my bills if I take a month off to write a book? How can
I energetically give away my time and energy to causes
that need it without room in my budget? I will not go
there. I leave such miracles to God. I only know that
this is the simplification (however naive) that must
take place as I move forward on my path.
I opened myself to God through the path of the
Entrepreneur... and now the Minister is stepping in to
take her place.
It is not that I believe I have to live minimally (or
go without the material pleasures in life) to be great
in service.... yet I do know that, for me, service must
start to proceed my monetary apprehensions and needs to
feel secure. I fully appreciate and honor the ways in
which the business-mind is shaping my reality and
providing me with liberties to have choice over what I
do with my time... yet, what AM I doing with my time?
This may sound dramatic but everything aside from
helping others to feel the light of their brilliance
within feels like a slow death to me. Too much time is
spent on complex business operations and not enough on
the inspirations that pulse through me in the moment.
I am taking my life back now.
I pray for the divine guidance within me to show me the
way.
Brilliance Is Attracted To YOU
As children bring their broken toys, with tears for us
to mend,
I brought my broken dreams to God, because he was my
friend.
But then, instead of leaving him, in peace to work
alone,
I hung around and tried to help, with ways that were my
own.
At last, I snatched them back and cried, "How can you
be so slow?"
"My child," he said, "What could I do? You never did
let go."
- Author Unknown
In a session
today with a client, I had another realization
regarding The Law of Attraction... and another reason
why I experience some dissonance within when I read
some of the popular conceptions about it. (This posting
is one in a continual thread - See The Law of
Attraction in the archives for more).
My heart tells me that there is a Force that guides my
life. It is a Love beyond measure, and within it
contains the Potentiality of my greatest good. I trust
in this Guidance as, over the course of my life, I have
learned that its Infinite Wisdom far exceeds mine.
While I can dip into Its vastness in moments of
clarity, I cannot pretend to comprehend Its
Intelligence. I am but a small twinkle, a reflection on
a body of water larger than any concept that a mind
that rests in it can hold.
I have impulses and fleeting desires in the
every-changing seasons of my life... and I may buzz
within my very physical being (my cells) in order to
bring forth experiences that I want. Such is the Law of
Attraction at work. And yes... I experience one level
of fulfillment; yet, my spirit may remains hungry. Why?
Because I make the human fallacy to think that I
actually know
what's best for
me on the highest levels. Perhaps I do. Perhaps at
other times, I don't. But I am beginning to wonder...
What if I don't need to
know?!
Today it occurred to me clear as day: What if in all
this metaphysical mumbo jumbo, we have it all
backwards?!
What if I lived a life where it's really not up to me
what will bring me the most joy, the most fulfillment,
or the biggest paycheck?
Let's look at it in relationship to SHiNE.
The Law of Attraction = my desires are available
to me to the degree with which I align with them. I
pull my heart's deepest desires to me via my feel good
vibration.
= Some Effort To Feel Good
The Law of Attracting Fulfillment = true fulfillment is
available to me to the degree with which I align with
that which I am naturally
most attracted to. My heart's
deepest desires pull me towards a life where I am
living my greatest good IF I am willing to allow my
passions to guide me.
= Little Effort To Feel Good
WHAT IF it's not
that I need to
learn to feel good in order to attract my greater good
(whatever I think that might be)?... but instead, that
by moving towards
what inherently feels
good
I am, by
perfect design, moving towards the greater good that
already Life has in store for me. What if I just need
to let go of the controls?
How is this different? It is subtle shift of awareness,
sure... nevertheless, a liberating one!
I don't have to magnetize my desires to me... my
most heartfelt
desires magnetize ME into Perfect Being.
This is at the
heart of the work of unleashing SHiNE.
For years a held a vision for the life that I desired.
I had an picture of how I thought that would look...
the specific pieces necessary to complete the puzzle,
creating the image of fulfillment that I had in mind.
In the career realm, I moved into a variety of
positions that made sense and did everything that I
could to make each piece of the puzzle to fit. I fought
to feel good
in
circumstances that didn't. I battled with my mind that
urged me to stay, even though my spirit withered. I
created struggle when all that I longed for what ease
in my heart. Eventually, again and again, I fell to my
knees in despair and uttered a plea of surrender. It
was then that my life transformed. When I said, "That's
it! I give up!! I will stop trying... I will let go...
I will follow the signals that I am provided... I will
stop pretending that I have the formula for this
miracle of a journey... and turn things over to The One
Who Does." On these occasions, my weary body-mind
literally fell to the floor and proclaimed:
I give up
knowing how. I am willing. I am ready. Show
Me.
And each time my prayer has always, always been heard.
After a good night's sleep and an ego sacrificed at the
altar of Divine Wisdom, I am free of my agenda. Even
then, I am usually looking in another direction at the
time when Guidance taps me on the shoulder... it
whispers to me (never with urgency, only as a gentle
invitation): "See how the energy flows here... Ease...
This is the way... Come, come this way, my dear." I
have learned to go towards what moves me at the deepest
level. I move eagerly now towards that which attracts
me - not just superficially, but on a
soulular
level... the level of love and
least resistance. And when I do... when I trust even
the most minutely brilliant impulse, my life continues
taking off in ways I might have never dreamed possible.

And your spirit likely
strives for more out of life than what you can conceive
in your own heart and mind.
You may create a very satisfying life by feeling
good... or you can allow an extraordinary life to
create you by feeling God! There is no need to work to
feel good... just follow what fuels the stirrings at
the deepest core of you (whether it's an art class, a
walk in the park, or a leap of faith). Let go of
how
exactly it will
fit into your big picture, just trust that inspired
moments always do - somehow.
Move towards what moves you. And trust the path of
ease. And take care not to confuse ease with
easy
- sometimes our
passion for brilliant living leads us onto a path to
develop greater strength. Yet you will hardly notice in
the end... as the life that emerges from such moments
is truly glorious in every meaning of the word.
There is no effort in feeling good when you
do
what feels good
to you.
The path of least resistance is the Journey of the
Joyful Ones. Join Us.
Inside and Out

Betrayal Is An Inside Job
The Journey to
Forgiveness
It has been said that the first time someone
betrays you, it is his fault. And that each time after
is your own. I resonate with this at
first glance; yet, in light of recent events, I have
the urge to look closer. Perhaps, on some level,
betrayal is always an inside job?
Today, I look back on the relationship that I most
recently separated from and I am in awe of the
fabrications that operated within my mind... keeping me
from seeing clearly. In short, who I wanted this man to
be, he was not. And I did everything I could to make
him that someone other than who he was. You see,
leading up to this relationship, I spent time and
energy defining exactly what I wanted... mentally and
emotionally constructing an ideal. I was committed to
this image in my mind, and when a man came along who
offered his heart (and his physical and energetic
credentials) to me, I welcomed him with open arms. I
was eager to love him as that which I wanted (for I
naively believed that his presence alone confirmed that
I attracted what I wanted, right?). So when indicators
began to emerged from the very beginning that let me
know certain somethings were out of integrity between
us, I ignored them. I overlooked the times when our
values were not in alignment. I overlooked our poor
communication. I overlooked the most essential fact
that truth was not present enough of the time. And
mostly, I overlooked the reality that I was deceiving
myself to the bitter end.
To sum up the destruction of our relationship:
I deceived me. Then he
deceived me.
From the outside, given the dramatic turn of events and
betrayal of trust, it could seem like I am a victim of
his choices in the end. Neverthless, as of this moment,
I take ownership my many self-deceptions that proceeded
his. Each and every moment that I chose to overlook the
truth about who this man could really be in my life...
each time I re-invented him to live up to my ideal of
who he could be
- rejecting the
truth of the moment - I lied to us both through my
love. It was unfair. We could even go so far as to say
that I cheated on him long before he stepped out on me
(as I consistently made love to someone who existed
mostly in my mind). What is staggering to consider, is
how many times I reconstructed him... then felt myself
as a victim of the pain of my own betrayal.
I know, it sounds a bit extreme. Of course
there were ways
in which I was extremely present and in love with the
truth of him. There were a great many things that I
loved - and still love - about him. Primarily, I was
enamored by the potential man within him... his unique
brilliance intrigued me (as I have been gifted the
power to see it in everyone who crosses my path). Yet,
as I have learned in my work with clients, me seeing it
is not enough. Each person must do the work, for
himself or herself, in order to do the sometimes
painful untangling of the threads that bind us to
habitual responses in order to free the power we have
been granted.
To fall in love with who someone has the
potential to become, versus
who they
are in the moment... well, that
self-deception I take full responsibility for
perpetuating. I suppose we all do this to a certain
degree with those we love. Time and intimacy
(in-to-me-see) in relationship always reveals the areas
in which we need to grow in big and bold ways. That I
expected. I know that the mystique that he had
surrounding me had to be shadowed by my day-to-day
realities and ego-dance. No one is perfect... yet, what
I have learned without a doubt in the past few
months?...
In order for a relationship to work, honesty must be an
active agent. And honestly with self comes first. It's
the foundation from which all other truths
emerge.
So as for betrayal... I do not I take responsibility
for his choices in the end. I simply acknowledge that
the deceptions that out-pictured in my world with me as
the "victim" are but a reflection of an internal
reality already present within. So looking into the
mirror of my own manifestations I see...
I am no victim of
circumstance... I am the image it
reflects.

Creation Is An Outside Job
The Potential Within Bears
Fruit
From my deepest core, I believe that no matter what
decisions we make, our greatest good will eventually
find us. So how is that, if we
are the
creators of our own realities? I am continually humbled
by my meager attempts to create
my life. At a a
time when The Secret and The Law of Attraction are hot
topics, I am a student and teacher of metaphysics who
says "not quite." Don't get me wrong, I believe in
these principles to a certain degree... and they are at
work in my life. I have attracted so much of what my
heart desires. Yet, it seems that Spirit is offering me
an alternate perspective on it all. I can have
everything I desire and more.. only to realize that
what I want may not be what it is that I am
really
seeking. And
when the best possible reality emerges in my life, it
is often a far cry from what I thought I needed. I am
but a humble soul, aligning with life itself and
allowing creation to find me.
Let's look to nature for clarification, shall we?
Imagine the flower seed who is in charge of its own
creation. Is it the seed that attracts the blossom? Or
is it that within the seed exists the potential of the
blossom? Perhaps the ultimate blossom comes from the
seed aligning itself with the elements that most
support its creation. These might include: a fertile
environment, adequate nourishment, and exposure to
light. The seed itself does not create the blossom, it
aligns with supportive elements and then surrenders to
what nature has in store. And when a storm blows
through, destroying the very blossom that the seed had
cause to turn into... all is not lost. The wilted and
battered flower does not cry out "Woe is me! How could
I have brought this destruction into my pasture?!!" On
the contrary, there is an understanding in nature that
all that is created can not be mono-referrent and
self-initiated, as it is an interdependent and systemic
organism. And that the potential that exists within the
seed must have the grace to fit willingly into the
larger picture.
Our place in that wholeness is no different than that
of the flower. We align ourselves with the elements
that bring about: the most fertile dynamics in
relationship to our environment... the conscious
nourishment of body, heart, and mind... and exposure to
as much illumination and brilliance as possible. In
doing so, our potential is ignited and
creation happens to us and through
us. And
we learn to accept how each and every twist and turn
shapes us into being. We learn to rely, not on the
out-picturing of outcomes, but on the sensations that
ignite our potential. THAT is creation happening... the
stirring within. And we are actively involved
(visualizing and connecting to what moves us is useful,
and even more so is the courageousness of
doing!),
yet we are likewise receptive to looking outside of our
ideals about what we think should show up in our lives.
We welcome the unexpected visitors that offer us
perspective and connection to our less superficial
yearnings.
And so, today I am releasing my scripts around how I
think life should happen next, and I am focusing on
creating connection to the elements that feed me. As
for a new creation
in the
aftermath of the storm? Ah, at this time I can honestly
say, I have no romantic agendas or prerequisites in
mind for the future. I leave my heart open to the SHiNE
that leads me to more magnificence than my mind could
ever dream possible. Pictures dissolve, and I am free
to love purely again.
I trust that I am exactly where I need to be. In fact,
I take it step further. I wouldn't want to be anywhere
else than basking in the light of my own
self-discovery.
Passing on The Secret

Have you ever played the game where
you sit in a circle and pass a secret around? One
person starts... and whispers a phrase into the ear of
the person next to them. The secret then travels from
one ear to the next... around the circle back to where
it started. The game typically ends with fits of
giggles, as the original source of the statement
proclaims the original statement. Often, the messages
transforms as it moves around the circle... ending up
to sound very little like the initial transmission.
Perhaps we might consider this as we practice The
Secret. The transmission in its fullness brings us much
to practice and integrate into our lives. Yet, when we
seek to simplify, formulate, and/or become absolute in
the application of such a powerful spiritual
transmission... we are bound to be left in the dark at
the end of the day. Let us treat this modern day
miracle as a reminder that there is still so much
possibility and that which is potently unknown to
discover in the spirit realm. The Mystery is inviting
us to begin to
explore a new
relationship with It. As with all relationships, we
will be asked to evolve and refine our point of view in
response to our own unique experiences.
I, for one, love that aspect of relationship.
Transformation. Rediscovery. And the countless Deaths
of Self that occur as I get closer to the Truth.
Redefining Abundance
Redefining
Abundance
spiritual maturity = the
evolution from egocentrism to
interdependence
There has been a tremendous amount of buzz around the
recent film - and subsequent book - The
Secret. Upon
the initial launch of the law of attraction into the
mainstream, I was overjoyed. As a coach, I quite often
witness people caught in limited ways of thinking
(myself included... ah yes, we teach what we need to
learn!) and I was inspired by the thought that the law
of attraction invites us all to focus on choosing
thoughts/experiences that feel good. I know that the
ability to witness and own our beliefs and attitudes is
the first step to living more consciously. Surrendering
the Victim is essential for the Witness to step into
place.
The Secret teaches us that...
Feeling good is a natural outpicturing of conscious
choices.
In short, witness to know how you are vibrating... then
choose to feel good.
That I resonate with.
However, recently, I have begun to ponder terminology
that is thrown about liberally in metaphysical circles.
Namely, the idea of abundance.
Many teachers report that quantum physics tells us that
there is a limitless supply of resources available to
us. The only limitation that exists is our thoughts to
the contrary. Our experience of limitation in life is a
function of our vibrations (thoughts/beliefs/feelings).
Lack attracts lack. Abundance attracts abundance. Okay.
That sounds pretty straightforward, yes?
Yet, I am beginning to wonder. Are we not in the
egocentrism of our development as a spiritual culture?
In early child development, around 3 years old, a child
has a developed a sense of self. A sense that he or she
exists as a personality apart from the outside world.
They enter a stage marked by egocentrism - all that
exists in that which I see in front of me. The "I"
becomes the reference point for the world at large. If
I can see it, it is there. If not, then it must not be
there. Or, even if it is... who cares.
I am blessed with a wonderful man in my life, whose
family so generously invites us to enjoy their
beautiful home overlooking the Oregon Coast. Over
Mother's Day weekend, we spent some time there. As
always, my body and mind became spacious and calm in
the presence of the ocean's sounds. Perfectly content,
I spent some time journaling and flipping through books
and magazines of interest. I stumbled across an issue
of Vanity Fair... "The Green Issue"... that focused on
further educating the public about the environmental
issues. As I read about a culture in the Amazon, facing
extinction due to their shrinking landscapes and
drastic climate shifts, I realized (real eyes'd) that
if I focus on abundance as it is currently defined in
our culture, I may be doing a diservice to myself, my
clients, and my culture.
I am not one to watch the evening news and stew in the
negativity that I see onscreen. Nor would I suggest it.
However, maturing in our spiritual awareness asks that
we see the world at large - we can apply filters in
order to receive as much information as possible - so
that our personal choices in life are conscious and
contextual. It is an egocentric society that ignores
the world at large. I very much do agree that I must
find peace within before I can have a peaceful impact
on the whole. Absolutely. However, I am not an island
of energy. I am an integral piece that impacts the
collective on a scope we are only now beginning to
understand. The Green Movement is a brilliant example
of illumination. We now have a measurable experience
of interdependence.
The butterfly wings of one person's choices, being felt
in a small Amazonian village in South American. Ah ha!
The concept of "we are one" is no longer simply a
metaphysical musing... it is a reality!
I am beginning to see that to misrepresent a concept
such as abundance - framing it as a selfish freedom
without limits or implication in such a
consumption-driven society is ironic, naive, and
spiritually immature.
The issue: In our modern world, consumption is too often confused
with abundance. And abundance is confused with
wealth. Let us seek to redefine these concepts which
are, in their purity, holy and sacred responsibilities.
Do I want more money?... of course! How about
more
vacations?... and a best
seller?... or two?... Okay. Sign me up!!
Yet it is not the money, or the vacation, or the book
deals that will lead me to the wealth that I seek. At
best, these will all serve as distractions UNLESS I am
spiritually mature enough to handle the responsibility
that such luxuries afford me. If I consider myself an
island of energy that is... 1) uneffected by the
choices and consciousness of those around me, and 2)
who can will anything into being without consideration
for the whole... I may achieve a rich and abundant
lifestyle as it is promised. One that feeds my body
with pleasure, and my emotions with a sense of
satisfaction.
However, each passing day teaches me that the abundance
that I want more than anything else is a sense of
spiritual satisfaction. A deep and pure experience of
Love. Fulfillment. Purpose. And, in essence, Heaven on
Earth.
We do not have to surrender one for the other.
We can have the joys of the physical world as well as
the bliss of that which connects us to something larger
than ourselves. Paradoxically, I believe that it is the
investment in spiritual assets that brings us a wealth
that nurtures us for a lifetime.
Since I have begun to challenge the narcissism of The
Secret - and what has become near-mainstream acceptance
of the Law of Attraction - I have been asked the
question:
"Candice, are you
saying that you no longer believe in The
Secret?!"
Yes, I believe in The Secret. I believe that the Law of
Attraction does indeed exist.
But I believe in The Force behind it more. And that my
highest good is in the hands of an intelligence that
far exceeds anything that my hands, my head, or my
heart can hold.
And it
feels good. Really, really
good.
The Law of Attracting Fulfillment

The
Law of Attraction = Ask and It Is Given
The Law of Attracting Fulfillment = Trust and Receive
Your Greatest Good
In my experience I have known that the secret of joyful
living, fulfillment, and a wealthy existence is
something that I can call forth. I have practiced the
Law of Attraction. I have desired a great many things,
relationships, and experiences... and have come to
experience most everything that I have called into
being. So much of that which I wanted to become I have
become (teacher, black belt, performer)... so much that
I wanted to experience I am experiencing (creativity,
travel, loving relationship)... and so much of that
which I wanted to have I am having more of (more money,
a beautiful home, freedom to choose what to do with my
time). And so I know that within me lies the power to
make things happen. For this, I am grateful.
Nevertheless, none of these outpicturings have brought
me the peace, joy, or fulfillment that I have been
seeking all along. My process of creation has brought
me many things... most importantly, the realization
that none of these desires self-serving will ever bring
me the fulfillment that my soul yearns for.
I don't mean to sound cynical. It's actually one of the
most liberating realizations that I have ever had. I
think back on the great moments when I have known true
fulfillment. Right now, writing my truth to you. Lying
in the arms of my lover in that space between this
world and the dream state. Laughing joyously with
friends. Holding my niece in my arms for the first
time... or seeing her sweet face in an e-card from my
sister. Watching my nephew come into the world.
Witnessing as someone shares a dream with me, and
holding space for the sacred power of a spirit
unleashed. Feeling the boundless joy while watching
students in blissful abandon through dance... or in
presenting their uniqueness in union with another
through a performance jam.
It is THIS that I wish to attract more of into my life.
Fulfillment that comes from the everyday magic of
relationships, co-creation, and meaningful
interactions. I want to develop mastery in - not my
ability to bring the material into the material world
(I have sensed the transient satisfaction of this)- but
my ability to take notice, appreciate, and rest into
the ways in which spirit is present in the flesh of
those around me. To attract more of the juicy richness
of life. While I receive satisfaction and comfort from
the many images that come to life through me... it is
the unexpected and brilliant miracles of all that lies
beneath the surface that bring me true fulfillment.
Therefore, I offer a shift in semantics for my
practice...
from The Law of Attraction, to the Law of Attracting
Fulfillment.
And I am committed to building a business where others
are aspiring (and inspiring!) to do the same. Moments
of brilliance acting as signposts that light the way.
SHiNE ON!
The Secret - the BUZZ
The Secret
Is Oprah
a metaphysician? Are YOU?

The Secret...What is all the BUZZ about?!?! In
February, Oprah Winfrey introduced millions of viewers
to The Secret - a DVD that reveals the Law of
Attraction and describes how it can be used as a tool
to bring about fulfillment and a life beyond our
wildest dreams! She shared her genuine enthusiasm
regarding the material, and her belief that The Law of
Attraction is what has enabled her so many successes in
her life!! For some of us, the ideas contained within
the The Secret are not new. In short, feel good
vibrations create feel good outcomes. Nevertheless, no
matter how hard we try to feel good, we are
continuously drawing unfavorable outcomes into our
life. Why is that? How can we apply the Law of
Attraction to bring about positive changes? What can we
do to shift our awareness away from what we perceive in
our life as limitation...shifting it instead towards
the frequency of a desired outcome?
Although
The Secret has taken time to embody as a practice, it
is certainly not new to me. Since 2002, I have been
creating a body of work that makes the Law of
Attraction both understandable and accessible. I call
it, Sensation Matters. I offer individual sessions as
well as small group engagements (it's fun to feel good
with friends!) focusing on applying these practices in
meaningful ways. Contact me to learn more about how The
Secret can work in your life. Yes! You do have a right
to the life you've always wanted!
The Secret - Consultations: Small Group or Private Sessions @ thePortal Home Studio